Our Philosophy

Our Philosophy

Your wedding is a collaboration of talented event professionals. At First Comes Love, we take a team approach. We aren’t photographers, DJs or florists, but it is our job to bring the best of the best together to maximize your budget and create a wedding that reflects your vision.  The team is supervised by veteran event planner Amy Ulkutekin who will match you with the best event manager for your event based on your planning and event style.

Why Hire a Wedding Planner?


Wedding planning is not just our job, it is our PASSION.

First Comes Love combines our love for weddings with creativity, attention to detail and deep industry connections - all with the goal of creating intimate, personal events that reflect our couples. First Comes Love is proud to be honored as a top wedding planner for the 2011 Best of the Knot, 2011 WeddingWire Brides' Choice Award and top 3 wedding planner from the 2011 A-List.

Amy Ulkutekin
Amy Ulkutekin

Owner / Event Planner

Wedding planner, wine lover and professor of wedding planning (she literally teaches it.)

Tiger Woods, Wolfgang Puck, Will Ferrell and Kim Cattrall have all trusted Amy with their events. As founder and lead advisor at First Comes Love, Amy is a sought-after wedding and event planner, having the pleasure of working at over 75 Southern California venues. She also teaches wedding planning for San Diego Community College District and has been featured as a wedding expert nationally and locally in 944 Magazine, NBC, FOX News, The Knot, Style Me Pretty, Green Wedding Shoes and more.

From weddings, charity galas, designer brunches, and more, Amy has been planning events for over a decade. Amy specializes in creating flawless events with elegant and personal flair.

When she’s not planning weddings Amy enjoys learning about new wines and traveling.

SPECIALIZES IN: full and partial service event planning, event design, full event production.  Please note that Amy does not do month-of or day-of coordination however supervises a wonderful team of event planners who offer this service.

CONTACT AMY

DESHAI ROBERSON
DESHAI ROBERSON

Event Manager

Cool, calm and collected. 

DeShai is amazing if we do say so ourselves.  She previously owned her own event planning company for over 10 years and came on board with First Comes Love in 2014 so she could focus on event planning as opposed to the business management side of owning a business (can you blame her?)  With so much experience, DeShai is perfect for everything from day-of coordination to full planning.  She’s worked at almost every venue, has a strong network of professionals who know and respect her and is flawless during the day of the wedding.

SPECIALIZES IN: it all!  DeShai is available for full and partial planning or month-of and day-of event coordination.

CONTACT DESHAI

Ruthie Malak
Ruthie Malak

Event Manager

Go getter, mover and shaker.  

With a background in interior design, Ruthie has a good eye for putting together design and decor.  At First Comes Love she is known to be one of San Diego’s most on point event managers, making sure that every detail of each event she works is covered.  She even braved coordinating Amy’s wedding, which tells you she is willing to take on any project.  Some may call her type-A, but in our business, that’s a great thing.  Ruthie is the perfect event manager for any couple who wants to rest assured that every t will be crossed and every i will be dotted at their event.

SPECIALIZES IN: day and month-of coordination + design

CONTACT RUTHIE

NENA VILLAVICENCIO
NENA VILLAVICENCIO

Event Manager

Our God Send. – Event Manager and Office Guru.

Seriously, Nena is the best!  Not only does she event manage, but she is our full-time office manager.  She is the backbone of the company, drafting timelines and making sure that our clients are 150% taken care of.  So how did she get here?  She actually started as our intern for a non-profit event we put on and we loved her so much we brought her on full-time.  She’s young, got spunk, can handle anything and has experience.  She’s a dream come true.

Specializes in: month and day-of coordination

CONTACT NENA